From him to me, back to him....

[Randy53215]

NOTE: This is going to be a huge post, but please follow along closely and see if you can help me.

Ok let me first start by introducing myself... My name is Randy Brown I live in Greenfield Wisconsin, I go to school at ITT-Technical Institute and I'm on my second year. My birthday is today (or will be in like a few hours from now) Aug. 26th 1988 (20 years old).

Let me first start by saying i'd like the best advice I can get... I used to forum a lot more than now and I hated seeing tldr (Too long don't read) posts. Now onto my HUGE problem....


-- Ages --

Me (Randy) 20
Her (Ericka) 18
Tyler 18

-- Relationship Status --

On and Off dating?

-- Length of time together --

Known each other since March of 08
Started dating June 12 3:25 AM.

-- Children Involved --

None

Ill get into the other specifics later...

Ok so I met this Ericka girl in March at a friends dads funeral. She was dating this Tyler guy at the time, she dated him for 3 years while in high school. The first year or so claimed to be good but then it was on and off like a pair of socks. First time I ever talked to her she was crying and she was venting to me about this guy. (I'm easy at giving advice for others but not myself for some reason) So I got her number that night and started texting her and things seemed to be going great and eventually we started dating.. but before I get too far ahead, when she was single (as in broken up with him and talking to me) she worked at Target and every week or so everyone at Target gets together and such. Well one night I got a phone call, it was her saying that her co-workers and "team lead" wanted to meet me. So me being ambitious and outgoing I said sure, so I went and met them and then later on we went out to BW3's with people from the store. They all liked me.

Ericka and I started fooling around (sex and such) in the beginning of June and everything seemed to be on the right track. Her birthday was June 8th and she had a party. I got her a huge thing of flowers and a new belly button ring (keep in mind we weren't dating at the time..) and later in the night he shows up. It ****ed me off I wanted to fight him so bad it was ridiculous but out of respect for her, her mom, family and her house I didn't. He ended up leaving and whatnot but yeah.

So I had a party a few days later and we started dating that night June 12, 2008 3:25 AM.

Everything was amazing while we were dating, we'd go mini-golfing, bike rides (motorcycle), watch movies together (my house and the theaters), grocery shopping, errands, etc... Well some point in mid June I got a text along the lines of "I know you prolly don't want to hear this but I want a break because I don't know what I want with life and etc." A couple days go by and we get back together. Then July 4th week comes about. I go camping with her WHOLE family pretty much and they all really liked me it was for about 6 days. It was a great time esp being with her and her family. We get back on a Sunday when Summerfest was going on (huge music festival in Milwaukee, biggest in the world) so somehow we were mad at eachother and she went down with her friends and me and some buddies went by ourselves (I didn't know she was going to be down there). But she ended up ditching me to go get alcohol so I decided it would be best to leave because she wasn't giving much attention to me. Later I heard from friends that she was hanging all over my friend Aaron (in a relationship kinda matter) I sent a text to her saying "We're ****ing done" and one to him saying "What the ****ing are you doing man?" or something along those lines... so another week goes by were back together.

Couple weeks of us being together go by again everything is perfect as always when we're together I had a grill out the Saturday before all this happened that I'm about to tell you. We invited all our friends and it was sooo perfect. The Tuesday came up and she was acting really weird but later she texted me saying "I know you don't want to hear this but I really need a break to figure out what I want to do with my life." And things have been bouncing back and forth now for a while esp lately and after the break that occurred on Tuesday sometime a week or two after she ended up having sex with Tyler (her ex) twice. We started hanging around each other again and like always it was perfect... But Tyler calls after we get out of the movie theater yelling at her about why she's with me. So later on that night she ends up going over there to talk to him and he basically said "make a decision me or Randy" 45 mins go by roughly and she chose me and she came back her crying her eyes out and I was just hugging her assuring her everything was going to be ok and such. I asked her several times if she thinks she made a mistake and she said no. Day after she goes to see her therapist and she says she has to stay single because we were both being selfish about how she felt and everything. We ended getting back together August 16th later to break up on the 18th. Tyler was leaving for school on the 16th and she told me it would make everything a lot easier for her to keep him out of her life and to keep me in her life. But we went to a brewer game on Monday the 18th and he was texting her while we were there and she said she only wanted a friendship and whatnot to him and that he wasn't the Tyler that she fell in love with. So we broke up AGAIN and whatnot I had a party for my birthday on the 22nd and she came. She wrote me a letter saying it wasn't fair to keep trying to be with me when her heart belongs to him. It gets better.... so on the 22nd they were still classified together. Her and I made out twice each time for like 10 minutes that night, she was grinding (dancing) all over me and she told me she was thinking about calling him and ending it again and whatnot. She told me she did love me and she didn't know how to tell me and such. But all this passes by and here we are but yesterday the 24th I got a call from her saying "It's never going to work between us and blah blah blah" then I was just listing off key points on how this guy is not the right choice for her because of what he's done in the past and how he's treated her. (He's cheated on her, hit her, etc) So she ends up putting him on the phone and I wasn't about to let him get through to me by saying stupid **** so I just kept repeating "Is that why her and I were making out on Friday" and such then I finally had enough of him and asked him "Where the **** are you" and he responded "Why does it matter" and I replied "Because I want to pound your ****ing face in and take a **** on it" then he hung up.

But key points... All her friends realize I am a way better choice then this guy. Her family absolutely hates this guy and they like me. She's attached to him for four reasons I can think of... Her first love (3 years), she lost her virginity to him, she had their life planned out, his family is like her family.

I just need help on figuring out on what I can do to make her realize that what she is doing is wrong and that if we are together I will do everything to make it right like I have done before. I don't want to just "get over her" I want to be with her, there is something about her that is different from all my other ex's.

Something that I wrote her on facebook because she was ignoring my text's and calls...