Is he being too flirtatious?

[cat74]

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now, but today when we went to a food place for lunch, he ****ed me off. At the Chinese food place, they always ask you if you want to try the specials. The lady behind the counter ask him did he want anything else and I heard him say: "No, but I want you, that why I come here." Afterwards when I fussed at him about it, he said that he didn't say that, he told her: "I come here for food." I know I heard him say the other thing, but he swears that he didn't and wouldn't say that. Then he turns it around to say that I must have thought she was attractive. That only ****ed me off more!!

This concerns me because I've noticed that he was always a little too friendly to the cashier women in the store. I don't even know if I heard wrong or he is just a lying piece of crap!

Should I trust what a heard or should I forget about it?

[someoneoutthere]

I would let this one go if I were you. Maybe he was being a little too flirtatious, but is he a good guy? Does he treat you well? You obvious drew his attention to it, so I bet he is more cautious from now on about what pops out of his mouth.

I am such a smarty pants, I'd inject some humor into it. I would say something like,"well, she better be a darned good cook and clean house, or you don't get to take this one home, babe. The last one burned water and didn't know what a dishwasher was" wink, and elbow him... But of course, not everyone would be comfortable doing that. I am an odd duck.

[facetious]

Originally Posted by cat74

I don't even know if I heard wrong or he is just a lying piece of crap!

You have known this guy for 4 years and you can’t tell if he is lying to you?

Also, calling him a lying piece of crap isn’t very loving nor is it healthy. Are there other issues going on?

[cat74]

Originally Posted by facetious

You have known this guy for 4 years and you can’t tell if he is lying to you?

Also, calling him a lying piece of crap isn’t very loving nor is it healthy. Are there other issues going on?

Knowing someone 4 years doesn't mean that you know when that person is lying. Believe me, I know friends that were married for 10 years and they didn't know. Some people can lie so well that you can't tell.

I really didn't say he was a lying piece of crap. I said I can't tell if he is or not. That was my concern. That was the only issue.

Thanks for your input!

[jerseygirl]

Well, what's his track record when it comes to flirting or crossing boundaries with other women? IMO past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior.